Those or a certain to harbour hostility and even already people to engaged in you by hook or by crook really to you correctly even, you can examine oneself too, what's wrong with ourselves? What records making he or her injured are there? Whether may dispel misunderstanding " The enemy " Is it a friend? See things as one would if he were in someone else's place and think about the other side has excusable places too. Think the other side dangerous, have background cause further. Think, there may relations very much between the dangerous mood and situation of weak tendency from the other side.
By the look of distant view, to hate, blame malicious all people, all uproar make trouble, all signature file a suit too kind, slander, rod cap, under the relatively stable situation of a macroclimate, function is very limited, the ones that may be played are reaction. You face the fearful with no fears, and its fearfulness disappears. It is can normal movement to be heavy, steady response, bright psychology, without interruption, let various affairs keep to the conventional way of, advance, let your life move ahead according to the set track. Or a bit simpler, let's refuse to put and pay attention to temporarily. You are so busy, there is work that have business to have sense of calling to have limitless life fun to study writing on the body too, how may go, keep company those come to a dead end, hope again, only have persons seeking living in the struggle with skeleton enemy left?
Certainly, isn't it that it is all right that you pay no attention to him, anyone, there is troublesome harassing and wrecking no end too. But daily we said " A hand can not clap " ,My experience has 6/7 i.e. 84a± 3% applicability at least, i.e. if that hand of yours does not act, he is just fade. There is 15a± 7% besides, you just pay no attention to them, it is not all right to just become a person who tries not to offend anyone, he is forcing you to show teeth to him, gives some lessons, give up for some colors. We can't have 15.7% of the persons to need the lesson to go to keep the pestering of those 84.3% of the persons company, that waste energy too, can't have great majority can with refuse, put, pay attention to, solve, relax to 15.7% response of people those either.
To the disagreeable one of those 15.7%, if necessary, certain about, look for it correctly, in the most favorable opportunity, you can fight back too. But this is unconventional definitely, can do something accidentally.
Philosophic theory 037a¤ in life
One only studies attentively, work hard, true sincerity, help others out of good will, treat others as equals, healthy and progressive, spend main energy on on interpersonal relationships worry about petty gain or loss and are swayed by considerations of gain or loss, his interpersonal relationships must be very harmonious.
Help others to free
As Ji Bolun in youth, had ever visited a sage. This sage lives in a piece of peaceful woods over the mountain.
And what in the virtue sage talk about when Ji Bolun, one bandit getting lame leg gets on the mountain ridge straining. He came into the woods, knelt and said in front of the sage: "Ah, the sage, please free from my fault. I am sinful. "
The sage answers: "My sin is very grave too. "
The bandit says: "But I am a robber. "
The sage says: "I am a robber too. "
The bandit says again: "But I am still a murderer, how many people 's blood still seethe in my ear. "
The sage answers: "I am a murderer too, how many people warm blood call in my ear too. "
The bandit says: "I commit countless crimes. "

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The child's economic cost: The structure in transformation period is changed and optimized
Author: Social sociology research institute of academy of sciences of Shanghai Xu AnQi
Synopsis: Research this use experience study materials go on describe and analysis of the influence factor in an all-round way to child economic cost and characteristic and their changes of utility, and put forward the suggestion on the optimization of child's economic cost structure.
First, project meaning
The child's cost utility analysis is a basic analysis tool of micro people's economics. According to Harvard University Professor Leibenstein and Nobel Prize for economics winner Becker's theory, it is that one kind accords with behavior with rational economy that the family bears the behavior, regard pursuing utility to maximize as basic criterion. What is called economic reason, then people should consider investing while doing something (cost) With producing (benefit or utility) Relation,it produce only when the when being put into, greater than can have made a decision to put into; It is the greater to produce the greater than difference invested, the larger the scale invested is. It is in choices made after cost and income that relatively bear children too that the family bears the behavior, its basis is that marginal benefit compares with marginal cost. When the marginal benefit is smaller than the marginal cost, do not arrange to bear the next child; When the marginal benefit is greater than the marginal cost, determine to bear the next child; When the marginal benefit is equal to the marginal cost, it depends on the random factor to bear the next child.
Domestic to study to child little by cost and utility experience of special topic, big sample study for odd (Feng LiTian wait for among them, 1987; Tian XueYuan, 1995; Ye WenZhen, 1998) . The research has basically described and analyzed the Chinese child's cost and utility with the real example materials, but there are the following defects more or less: ( 1) It does not accord with the national conditions that the lapse estimating to child's cost is fixed for 16 years old at age, because the expenses that the child went to the high school, university mostly rely on parents, and numerous parents pay 16 children obtain employment life, love marriage expense in children of children; ( 2) Enter a visit and only survey mother, while analyzing child's cost and income, have only estimate that gives birth to and brings up child shouldering utility to mother, has ignored the impact on father's devotion and utility; ( 3) The index system of measuring cost and utility lacks the integrality and scientific, if the checking and calculating more extensively or adopting the tracking back materials of history of economic cost, do not estimate accurately enough or weaken the realistic meaning studied because the materials are remote; ( 4) Past experience research is all 1996 and previous data, and reformed the increasing of efforts with social security systems such as the education, house, medical treatment and supporting parents,etc. in recent years, very great change has taken place in the child's cost / utility structure. So, through social investigation and quantitative analysis estimating to child's cost / utility scientifically, understand the society urges the family to bear plural influence factors such as behavioral economy, society, psychology,etc. in transformation period, have important meaning of theory and practice to substitute the result apparatus in the economic cost / overall assessment of utility and cost of quantity and quality of promoting the child of the child.
Second, research design and materials source
Characteristic one of this research is that the economic cost project will be expanded to renting house directly, expenses of celebrating birthday in information, communication, insurance and even baby's full moon wine and children stored and increased day by day in recent years of buying house, getting married etc., and further estimate others present / pay freely in the subsidy, school, by estimating overallly, accurately children foster the necessary expenses, describe the structure of the economic cost carefully. Second, it is still to consider most children 16 years old in Shanghai in Senior One, go to school two times, not merely need parents to offer raising, educational expenses (the educational expenses rise sharply in recent years, the proportion of students entering schools of a higher grade of junior college and the above is cumulative) ,And because the job flows in the economic transition of the market and unstable increase, some children may not find the work in time after graduation from school, or often job-waiting in the course of flowing in job, is unemployed or start an undertaking and fail even go bankrupt, parents should for use in children's food and clothing, worry about marriage wedding of children, marry expense, some will offer open funds, down payment of wedding room to children etc., this research will survey economic cost of unwed children of 0-30 years old. Third, besides the directly economic cost, we will also estimate parents give birth to and bring up children and influence oneself to develop or reduce indirect economic losses such as incomes,etc..
For guarantee questionnaire dependability of materials, research this adopt, enter by investigator household go on, visit respectively to parents and under the age of 30 unwed children that are not read, but not collect the materials for the method of releasing the questionnaire and retrieving. Inquire way with closed and open to combine together, through hold a lot of forum with deepening interview expand depth of materials.
Because population and Family Planning Commission trust Shanghai Xuhui area, investigate the sample comes from this district. In order to meet it to the need with statistical analysis of children at stage, sex, age and different levels parents, extraction to investigate sample take, divide layers of many stage probability sample method to combine with quota. We take 6 streets out at random from 12 residential districts in this district at first, then in this 6 streets and 198 residences / village committees, collect, occupy / amount to 36 by village committee, list child year of birth different total number of targets sequentially and then at random, elect 7 types in all residents committee at random ' Nursing period, young to ask issue, primary school, junior middle school, high school, junior college, the above, unmarried to read) Sample respectively 3-4 piece. Because actual resident population and household register population are not the same, in addition, it is unable to accept or refuse visitors to meet some, so, have selected more spare samples in proportion. Unwed children 30 years old and under that must have been born in the selected family for 2004 years, investigate 746 together, children at nursing period, young to ask issue, primary school, junior middle school, high school among them, junior college and the above and unmarried to read 7 difference of stage have 100 more than sample.
Because man refuse, visit more, investigate successful women slightly more a bit, accounts for 57.6%; The ones that are visited parents are at the age of 24-76, mean value is 42.9 years old; The education degree is regarded high school as most, receive an education for 12.4 years on average; The annual per-capita income is 34130 yuan; 92.6% of the targets are first marriages, 3% remarry, the ones that divorced and berefted of one's spouse only accounted for 4%; Visiting and only bearing a child of 93.7%.

Section 11 One pair of dragon's Taiji's pictures (2)
Leave teahouse, song Qin go to one pair of dragon's ways by car. One pair of dragons is not actually too long either on the way, about one kilometer, because of in the newly developed area, so the building on both sides of the road is mostly brand-new high buildings and large mansions. Song Qin look for one parking area, stop car, it is slow for oneself to walk Luis look around leisurely.
Pairs of dragon on both sides of the road some store and supermarket mostly, it has to be office building, place these copulate, it seems not to matter with male and female. At the period of the day from 11 p.m. to 1 a.m. of small shop that he is in passing by some mansion cracks, saw one that sell couple's health product, he has hesitated by the door, shakes the head and goes ahead again.
Like each corner spreading over city now of small such a shop, the murderer can not cudgel one's brain for such a place. After the about half an hour, song Qin park in Ginza amusement city enormous neon lamp signboard. Have over five o'clock at this moment, some puts on gay clothing and powders one's face to come out from the gate fragmentarily in the exposed woman, they undergo by the song Qin, will bring one strong perfume, song Qin have to admit, that kind of perfume is really a kind of enticement to the man.
He suddenly sees the light, insists on taking the intact section of dragon's distances finally. Pairs of dragon have only Ginza night club one place of entertainment at the road, there though song Qin does not come to, but while handling a case, have never lacked the name hearing of it in the mouth. In this way, song Qin have doubt in the heart, blood place that Taiji points to will certainly be Ginza amusement city.
According to pairs of dragon Taiji implied meaning of picture that Nan explain Ma, song Qin judge the goal that assilant chose will certainly be those heavily-painted women, they even if nothing speak, so long as people one station closer, everyone can feel one ambiguous with primitive impulse most that bottom of heart hide in the hiding.
But should find the goal that the murderer chooses from those young ladies, and it's not at all that easy.
Evening, song Qin and two comrade of team have a meal, it steady and sure very in being solid. Handle a case in the past, he contact woman to make Miss those very much, it is known that these people were mostly well-experience, it is very difficult to want to publish truth from set in their mouth. Moreover, blood Taiji seems to only point to Ginza amusement city, there is no hint about people at all, it is not hiding concrete time as the postcard, the peak that you only went to Zijin in that time, can know at once the person that will look for is Yang Di.
Song Qin heart weighed down with anxieties, but can't reveal at the face out yet.
In the about eight o'clock, song and two comrades of team Qin come to Ginza amusement city. The usherette in evening dress of the front desk leads them to the second floor, open a box, immediately, there was service in uniform to cause trouble tea came in, and asked consummately whether they wanted to look for the young lady.
Three people see eye to eye, can not take words out of the mouth quickly. The purpose that they come to Ginza amusement city is to look for Miss, but how to call this young lady, they compose in the heart a bit more yet not to have. They are not always good like other guests, a bit more careless two young ladies will come in, in case those two young ladies have nothing to do with this, they can not already finish the task finally, must draw tips by oneself. The money of the tip, estimate even if a captain signs and goes to have a local paper.
Song Qin hesitate, getting loud voice say they here yet people have, a friend come over later. He lets the waiter go out first, does not greet him until the friend has come.
Three people sit there to be all over uneasy, big eyes stare at small eyes, know what is to be done next.
That person Qin song partner for many years suggest the clear-cut bright bright identity finds a boss directly, call in one by one the question of young ladies, see them having any doubtful person at one's side recently. Song Qin think, disagree with this kind of method. Miss those even what does it make no, smell the policeman's taste outside 4 kilometers, certainly set up horses and start running and run. Even if that ability to move around is not too agile to run, first they will not tell the truth to you, second they these people will have a stranger at one's side every day, so long as there are tips and can be taken, where do they know it is not suspicious who who is suspicious.
Practise that small police and have no burdens, the attention that join in the fun in the heart a bit with coming over. He is muttering to oneself in the mouth at this time: "You think about it carefully, perhaps what's the point of you have not done yet clearly in Taiji's pattern of that blood. Since the murderer dares to leave the clue, should be unable to follow the whole such thing not clear of ours. You think Yang to guide last time, others on messy at all. "
Song Qin think about it, think, practise light police these speak still very reasonably. The murder case is not rare these years, but one that dare leave the clue as this one does is non- many. This murderer is certainly responsible for the the extreme by oneself, should be unable to follow police and play the acrobatics not clear. However, the meaning contained about that blood Taiji, Ma Nan had already very clearly explained, are there places to omit too in the south of horse?
In box, song Qin get two photo those out, wave head gather and look over with two brother those at tea table. Are they all thinking, a certain hint about people is being hidden in blood Taiji?
Song Qin think of fierce case scene, the dead with whom sharp knife disclose extremely, a place of blood flow. After the murderer kills, it is not anxious to leave away, but leave this pattern on the ground dipping in the blood with hands. Song Qin suddenly think that seemed inside that there was any unnatural place, he thought desperately, if the head all want to bomb. He feels what oneself has already been caught, but can't let it gather together shaping yet for the moment.
Practise that small police and say: "Draw the picture must what time does it delay, the murderer is really very calm. "
Song Qin make the forehead, think understanding finally.
The blood, can only draw one and mean the long lines come, draw an intact Taiji picture at most on dipping in with the finger, estimate that does without dipping in for more than ten two or ten times most, unless have no option or there are profound meanings besides, the even more calm murderer will not stay in fierce case so long live for this either. The murderer leaves postcards in the fatherless old man pocket last time, obviously prepare meticulously in advance, it is on one's body that the postcard has already been taken while killing. Then two these, he can plan two paint Taiji little paper of picture in advance, kill, draw directly to lose the bodies of the dead?
He draws this Taiji's picture with the blood, there must be profound meanings, and Ma Nan, while explaining source and moral of one pair of dragon's Taiji's pictures, seem to neglect function inside of the blood too.
Two curves inside one pair of dragon's Taiji's pictures, stem from the mating picture of Fu Xi and Nukua, include meaning that male and female copulate, such relation at if one picture tear with the blood, what meaning can that still indicate?

Have never expected I have needed to face you by this way one day. I am sorry!
I believe, I have already injured you. But injure to cause, then, I prefer to choose to face you with the honest attitude, because false or concealment of any, to you being whether another injure again, extremely unfair all.
Yes, I love Yan, even like being far more than you.
Wei Wei, I countless piece inspect heart of me night not sleeping once, query why can change to to love you cruel like this I? You are so beautiful, why I can lose that first emotion, will then bet on the body of Yan warmly?
Wei Wei, I believe you are who understands me, understand I must be loyal to one's own emotion and feeling.
I love Yan, the ones that do not produce because people are in the strange land or lonely at good night suffer commiserate with each other; It is not that the spontaneous sincerity of waterside pavilion is so superficial and simple. I, to her love, is that pair steps on the earth, soak in reality all over the body, it is calm and true. Certainly, we really live together in the realistic strange land in the grimness, and there are the same thoughts and feelings and pulse, but could touch to the most sincere emotion in the heart of hearts and desire because like this.
Wei Wei, I lots and lots of inspect oneself to your loving everywhere once too. Please believe me, that is earnest, and sincere, is palpitation, is without hesitation, but not the soul depths. Wei Wei, you are the so beautiful, beauty like this, and the shade in each boy's dream, it is the most glittering pearl on king's imperial crown, have you, it is a king precious treasure, it is the hero that shows disdain for the pride of a group of human relations too. So, I love you, love your beauty, the one that loved you like pearl is dazzling, love the ring of light of the hero that you represent too.
But I true in love in Yan, to can put under cruel test of life, wave in life and death handing in tribulation imprisoned. Between us, there are not other people that admire the eyes admired, even does not have others' hearty blessing, some of us, just know very well each other willing this is grown and kept the every minute, would not like before abandoning reaching old age.
Wei Wei, I ask you to believe us, we have restrained oneself and does not meet again hard, inhibit oneself and does not miss again hard. Yan even promises others' pursuit, only in order to keep the loyalty to the good friend sincerely. Wei Wei, love, that hot miss be avoided in the heart, the raging fire ragingly is watered and does not stop either in that bottom of heart.
Then we choose, let raging fire tattoo, choose until love drowned, though we know this grow at last bearing " betray " Charge,but on true love fear, encourage us not to be for power important most facinged no longer.
So, Wei Wei, excuses the apology that I express me with such honesty, excuse the crime that I do not cover up me in magnificent ornate diction either. I am deeply convinced that precious like you, must have more beautiful happiness, and that is worthy of getting the lucky man of the glittering pearl on king's imperial crown.
Fang Zhen '
Having finished reading the letter, He Wei phones Yang Qing, asks her to bring Yan to come to family tomorrow.
5 of 14
December 29, from day that Qing get married Yang being only 3 days left.
Yang Qing's wedding vacation begin from today. She goes to hotels to decide the easy last detail of entertaining guests at a banquet with the 32nd first early in the morning, bought some green vegetables, fruit in the supermarket, about 12 o'clock, export, connect, have Yan in subway station, where Wei go by house by car.
Yang Qing brought mother and boiled dark chicken soup of red date of ginseng for a whole night and brown sugar longan porridge today, it has only taken more than ten minutes, scald several kinds of green vegetables, boil the noodles of buckwheat in the kitchen agily, three people sit around until where Wei spread lake to be getting green little dining table of tablecloth have a meal.
Since after seeing Yan on the sick bed a few days ago, He Wei did not have spirit and mood to look this once intimate good friend up and down carefully until today. Mood calmed down a lot of Yans, dressed up more sedulously too today.
In so many years, Yan has been still maintaining the habit of the long hair all the time, the length that only neat shoulder is slightly shorter than before. He Wei is from looking at Yan opposite to the dining table, under the soft light, her hair is still smooth and gorgeous, have not rolled over the trace decreased because of years at all. Though is a bit more plump because of postpartum slightly than before, it was still moving that there is figure caused unsmoothly.
Perhaps the shady and cool and cold day of New York is a bit longer, the skin of Yan is white comparing with the time of studying, smile, eyes tail scatter fine lines indistinctly, speak, two cheek the freckle jumps slightly, hand to hold chopsticks a bit coarse, but nail prune clean and neat, until sunshine set off winter, expression in one's eyes of her soft and gentle, light pear of corner of the mouth nest lovely and good-looking, Wei He feel her to be really beautiful extremely, do not think that sees losting in thought.

There is slight chill in the air in the evening in Beijing of the beginning of September. What Wei while still working overtime to rush to write the report in the office this day, Yang is warm and fine, heard a burst of loud noises at the door suddenly. Two people arrive at the door, see the major part supporting the plastic chair waiting for having a rest for the case at the gate one by one sputteringly, the little young girl friend of the tear stains of his whole face stands nearby, still carrying another chair on hand.
"The major part? " Yang Qing has not dared to call him too loudly.
"It's nothing! " Wave, tell two people to go back to office in major part.
Qing Yang right to look at in two people, get back to desk quietly, hear little girl friend afford to return toot, toot at the door only. The major part is entered to the office to get things together, force a smile and walk carrying the knapsack towards them soon.
"Cough! The major part is rather pitiful too, It's nothing hands over to so young and wilful a girl, quarrel, fighting every other day! " Yang Qing stood up a cup of hot tea has fallen among the tea, by the way bring a cup for He Wei.
"Seeing the major part has a skill frivolously very much usually, why do to this indefinite little girl? Did you see the color of her hair? " Wei He take over cup of fine hand Yang.
"Certainly see! The major part is said, so long as she suspects the major part ceases to be faithful and comes to like others, go to the hairdresser's to get her hair down, draw straight for a moment, for a moment hot one, dyeing red a few days ago, making into yellow again in a few days, make the hair dry like straw. She forbid major part say she also, so long as major part say she cry and make a noise also. Well, did you discover? The woman really likes talking about the thing with hair very much. "
He WeiXin thinks, yes! Transmitting womanlike speciality " The tool " China, it is beautiful that eyes and skin are used for behaving; For transmitting sexily that the show takes place and but the lip is. On U.S.A.'s clinical psychological test monthly magazine, a sex psychology expert, have ever issued a very interesting test involved in emotion psychology of sex, that lets 100 adult men and women see 10 handsome different charges in nature photos beautiful grading respectively, then it elect it think it attract by eyeball most, most can causing excited position. As a result, two sexes of over more than 80 has all chosen the sexy lip simultaneously, and no matter man, hair of woman become opposite sex appraise the other side the sexy important index too.
Think of here, what Wei can't help emerging from Yan's pitch-black glossy sending long as waterfall in the brain, think intimately and rightly in the heart: Even I am that a woman thinks her hair lets people palpitate with excitement so, what's more does the side shake?
Yang Qing perceives He Wei's face is different, knows that may speak the improper remark by oneself, shift the topic at once: "Phone, send messages to me those these days on the 32nd. Do not I really know whether to associate with him or not? "
"Why not take? You feel his place OK? " What Wei has already stood up and planned to get things together, has sat down again at this time, asked with care.
"I can not really say. But if I tell you sincere words, must not you laugh at me? ! "
"Nonsense! Of course! " He Wei turns chair to Yang Qing saying.
"I think his other places are quite good, but the dandruff lets me unable to accept. You don't stare at me yet, finish listening to me! " Yang Qing scratches the difficult to tackle cover and says again:
"It is heavy study psychological outline, for you to remember, teach, speak spiritual medical science, there is a statement of calling ' the mood map ', is that the health has several pieces of more sensitive mood position, they are the organ apt to attack of ' physical and psychological disease '. Among them, the digestive system and skin are the most sensitive map block, and the scalp is because of influencing by nerve endings that the dirt of hair, oil secrete and gather, become aptest to appear in the place of mood in the skin again? " See what listening to attentively of Wei it is, Yang Qing continues saying:
"Perhaps I have occupational disease, it is me oneself is problematic. But so long as I see the dandruff on the shoulder for the 32nd, I expect he will have a question of mood, then I associated it with the good thing more in a mess, did not want to speak to him suddenly! "
"Well, please, will you overstate a little very much? It is not the whole people who there is the dandruff all over the world that all have a mood question. Will otherwise you go to dept. of dermatology and ask how the dandruff came tomorrow? " He Wei can't not laugh till controlling oneself.
"Oh, boring, I, has left him alone first, we go to eat the ice cream, OK? " Yang Qing pushes away the chair, filling into suitcase carelessly of things.
He Wei thinks too that it is too busy to work in these days, the pressure is too large, need ice cream to indulge one's own mood. Two people keep things well carelessly at once, ice cream to head direct for Chang'an Avenue go by monopolized shop.